Bach Flower Heather - For exhibitionists

Bach Flower Heather - For exhibitionists

THE FLOWERS OF BACH
or
FLORITHERAPY

HEATHER
(BRUGO)

The Bach flower remedy Heather is for those people who must always be the center of attention, suffocating others with rivers of words and never listening.

IDENTIFICATION OF THE PLANT

Remedy name Bach flower

: Heather

Common name in Italian

: heather, grecchia, calluna

Scientific name

: Calluna vulgaris (FamilyEricaceae)

WHO IS THIS REMEDY FOR

Bach flower Heather, laCalluna vulgaris, it's indicated for those particularly extroverted people who must always be the center of attention, who speak only to them, always turning the attention of others towards themselves and leaving no room for anyone. They are talkative, victimized, self-pitying and button-downers. As a consequence of this they do not arouse particular sympathy as they are considered very annoying because the main word they use in their speeches is "I, I, I ... I did, I said, I tried, I am ..." ".

For these people it is not important who listens to them but simply to find someone, whoever they are, who listens to their speeches that focus on a single topic: themselves and their problems. no room for other people to talk, to express their opinion, exhausting her. Consequently, the greatest fear of a person Heather is loneliness, an inevitable consequence as in the end everyone tends to avoid them.

The problem of a Heather person is the lack of affection and having a great sense of emptiness so much that they always want care and attention only for themselves without giving anything in return.

Edward Bach describes a Heather person this way “For those who are always looking for the company of whoever is available, driven by the overwhelming need to talk about their business with others, no matter who they are. They are very unhappy if they have to be alone for any length of time. ' (1)

WHAT HELPS SOLVE THE HEATHER REMEDY

Bach flower remedy Heather in flower therapy helps to be more measured in the relationship with others, to relate in a balanced way by also listening to others, thus also becoming listeners. In practice, the remedy helps to be less self-centered, more self-confident and not to be afraid of loneliness. It helps to be more balanced, more humble, teaches silence and listening and consequently, respect for others.

TYPE OF PREPARATION

If you want to prepare the mother tincture Heather of Bach flowers, picking the flowers directly in the field, it is necessary to keep in mind that this Bach flower must be prepared with the method of solarization.

FLOWERING PERIOD AND BOTANICAL CHARACTERISTICS

It is possible to find the Calluna in bloom in late summer in the plains, in the submontane and mountainous areas.

It is an evergreen shrub, which takes on a bushy habit, very branched and no higher than 50 cm. The branches are woody and has abundant flowering. The leaves are almost scaly, without hair, light green, opposite and grouped in groups of four. The flowers are small, pink in color arranged vertically at the apex of the twigs forming very decorative spikes; they have a bell-shaped pendant corolla enclosed within bracts. The fruits are capsules.

Note
(1) Taken from The Twelve Healers and other remedies by E. Bach

BACH FLOWERS: HEATHER THE FLOWER OF IMMEDESIMATION

“For those who are always looking for the company of someone who is available, because they need to discuss their problems with others, no matter who it is. They become very unhappy if they find themselves having to be alone for a certain period of time ”. Edward Bach

The third remedy in the series of seven aids was Heather, in Italian Erica or more precisely Brugo (or Calluna vulgaris). It is said that Bach thought of Erica for a lady whom he defined as "self-centered and utterly talkative". When he asked her what was for her the most beautiful image she had ever seen, something that made her think that God really exists, she spoke of a series of hills covered with Erica.

From the botanical point of view we can make some associations, but in this case it is not as easy as for other plants. It rarely exceeds half a meter in height, grows in arid, acidic or sandy soils, and in any case poor in humus. It does not like the fertile and flat arable fields. It blooms from July to September, and the flowers of the variety used by Bach are pink-violet with a bell shape. They are not easily accessible to bees looking for their nectar.

The plant reveals Saturnian qualities, not only for the difficult soil it inhabits, but also for the duration of its life which can reach 40 years. Furthermore, arthritic and rheumatic diseases benefit from its properties. The sunlight that the heather absorbs in large quantities warms the cold joints stiffened by egocentrism, immobility on oneself, the will to impose oneself, inability to listen and therefore to contact reality. We can think of an over-protection of Saturn towards the Ego, which generates an immense hunger for contact and recognition. I cannot say whether it is a question of closure or immaturity. Maybe it doesn't matter, maybe both. What is certain is that the person in a negative Heather state must learn to listen to others. In any case, this is an important evolutionary step, whether it is a very weak ego, isolated and unable to access its internal resources, or whether it is a hyper-contracted ego convinced that energy, attention , the love of which he has been deprived, come exclusively from outside.

These people need to continually feel loved and therefore expressions of affection (which do not arrive on time). They pester their partner with constant phone calls, they are unable to bear their inner emptiness. What they do not listen to is in fact their internal, so they do not understand, or rather, they do not feel that they have disconnected from their internal source. The survival strategy is to "vampirize" anyone who comes within range with grueling tales of their life. Bach spoke of leeches. They often intrude on conversations by immediately bringing the subject to themselves. The energetic movement they create consists of a "suck" of attention and therefore of energy towards them. If the "victim" is not well centered, after two hours of this treatment she will return home very exhausted. Unfortunately they turn into real vampires who, instead of sucking your blood, drain you of your vital energy. There really isn't much difference! Heather types only take care of themselves. Be careful not to ask them for help because, even if they were to offer it, the balance between give and take would be clearly against you.

Heather is not to be confused with Chicory (the needy mother), this is the child in need instead. All children are rightly self-centered, as they are totally dependent on their mother. The baby cries to get his mother's attention and demands total dedication from her. It seems that Erica does something similar, using any surrogate from that mother by whom she probably did not feel sufficiently loved. In negative Erica cases, the child's ego has never become strong enough to accept that he is separate, that he is an individual. The ego has a great need to develop autonomously and manifest itself independently of others. In Heather's attitude it is as if the child has never acquired sufficient confidence in himself and in his personal strength, remaining fixed in the unconscious belief that there must always be someone from the outside who legitimizes and recognizes his existence. Bach placed this remedy in the group of loneliness. In fact, even though materially the Heather type is hardly ever alone, her inner loneliness is great.

In the birth chart I would take a look at the type of relationship with the mother, especially in the phase of symbiosis and in the subsequent phase of differentiation (position and aspects of the moon and all the houses up to the fifth) and then to the aspects and position of the Sun christmas as a symbol of self-confidence. Of course it is difficult for a Scorpio as a sun or ascendant sign to talk to everyone about their problems. It is to be expected that a fire sign will implement this strategy. And given the reference to unity that often echoes in this picture, I would also take a look at the Neptunian influences. In fact, here we are dealing with a person who cannot be alone or worse in silence, who cannot avoid talking to himself, because without an external mirror, without someone who gives him his energy, he feels he does not exist. She must learn to manifest herself as a healthy Sun in Leo.

Another astrological point of reflection could be the analysis of the fifth house as a representative of the inner child in need of being welcomed and accepted.

I remember the sensational case of a woman with the Sun in Leo and artistic-Neptunian attitudes. One day, while I was at her house with a friend, and I was talking to this friend about Bach flowers through the cards that represent them, she interrupting our conversation, took Heather's card from the deck. This is very interesting because it shows us that we subconsciously know what we need if we just listen to each other. The topic of listening is very fundamental for these people, who must really learn to listen to themselves, starting to listen to others. Heather has lost, or never felt it, contact with her Self, the true source of that strength and love that she obsessively seeks out in the outside world.

The people who embody this theme must then awaken their ability to listen, facing the demon they fear most: the feeling of inner emptiness and non-existence.

Bach's remedy reconnects to the spiritual source, that source that helps to understand that unity is a reality that cannot be demonstrated through the control of other people's energy, but which, like the landscape of the moors, is around us and above all within. we. The person thus develops a conscious perception of his own needs, and understands that the source of their satisfaction lies within himself and does not depend on others. The awareness of one's internal resources, of one's strength and of the fact that it can exist as a separate individual is an essential step. It will be at this point that their great capacity (Neptunian, but also solar) of identification and listening can emerge, without being perceived as a danger for an ego that has chosen to learn to shine in all its light.


Who is Heather for?

The heather flower, treated by Edward Bach, is aimed at all those who are always committed to solving the problems of others. They want to help others out of problems. Unfortunately, this help is not always required and although Heather has the best intentions possible, it ends up not really helping but only being aggressive and highly invasive.

A weaker personality helps to suffer from this kind of person, because he can be afraid of them. When you refuse their help or don't openly follow advice, that's it they act in anger. Those who are succubus are therefore led to act under fear, perhaps going against their own nature or simply doing something they do not like to please (and avoid a fit of anger). Heather is not driven by bad intentions, but her need to help falls into manipulation and she goes to great lengths to convince the other of the validity of her advice.

State of mind before taking this flower

The desire to be in company, to help others by any means. They want people to feel a kind of addiction towards them because they love to feel useful when the other is going through problems. All this attachment, however, leads the other to move away and Heather suffers incredibly. Edward Bach painted it as the perfect flower for self-centered, who make continuous monologues. It is also good for hypochondriacs who do nothing but talk about their "diseases".

She is a person full of energy, they are always very excited and are anxious about the problems of others. They offer advice aggressively, trying to correct others. All of their wanting to do more and more leads to various symptoms such as continuous headaches, palpitations, asthma attacks and emotional anxiety.


Bach Flower Therapy - Heather

Heather is one of the Bach flower remedies that falls under the remedies for loneliness. Those who are temperamentally this flower are afraid of being alone and do everything to keep others to themselves. Except that when he reaches a state of imbalance, he has a particularly boring way of doing things and he remains alone, because like a dog that bites its tail, it is he himself who pushes others away. It remains the cause of his greatest fear.

The characteristics of an unbalanced Heather

A person who needs this Bach Flower Therapy remedy speaks, speaks, speaks. His is a non-stop monologue that would like to bind people to himself through a river of words.

Maybe start with a simple one "How are you?”But then he doesn't even listen to the answer, he starts talking about himself, his problems, whatever comes into his mind.

He is apparently a selfish person, who wants to be the center of attention: no one has his problems, no one has his own tiredness, his own flaws.

She feels at the center of the world and speaks without waiting for an answer because in her head no one is as important as she is.

In a strong state of imbalance, he cannot moderate himself and it becomes very difficult to relate to others. She is the classic person who, when she calls you, keeps you for hours: you can safely put down the phone and do other things, because in the meantime she doesn't care about having a dialogue.

Sometimes one gets the impression that a hardcover or a mannequin would be enough for her, because she is looking for a silent listener who never interrupts or, worse still, blackmails something to the contrary.

In some cases, if the words don't seem so calamitizing, the Heather type tries to hold the person even physically: puts a hand on the shoulder or arm, tries to stay as much as possible with the breath on the neck.

The tone of the voice is often low as if to make sure that the person is close to listen and in this way it takes longer to move away.

It can be a character remedy or a life stage

You can be born, grow up and die Heather, perhaps with more or less unbalanced phases, but still eager for the public.

In small children, more than a continuous talk, the imbalance shows up with small gestures, pranks or teasing, perhaps with dangerous games, small damages, crying without a reason: it is the classic child who wants to draw attention to himself.

Very often this aspect occurs in elderly people, when more frequently one begins to feel the weight of loneliness. Heather is the old neighbor, who waits for us and opens the door as soon as we arrive on the landing, who with the excuse of having run out of sugar, coffee or whatever else tells us about her day first and then her whole life. He is an elderly man who also attacks the tables at the bar and talks to everyone as if he has always known them.

The benefits of the flower remedy

The flower remedy helps to get out of this vicious circle, there is less intrinsic desire to speak and then the desire to listen.

You become more empathetic and find yourself less alone, because friends, family and people in general find company more enjoyable and less invasive.

Heather helps us, in a certain sense, to find the right space in the world, letting us pass a little bit the fear of loneliness, making it clear that we feel good sometimes even alone.

As always, when it comes to holistic disciplines, it is the person in question who must feel the need to change. Often with Heather the problem arises that she does not recognize her flaws, but it is necessary that the desire to change the attitude starts from the subject himself. Let's say, however, that with the holidays and family lunches upon us, if you have a relative, Heather, perhaps it is appropriate to play cunning in some way and let him try this floral remedy rim

If you want to learn more about the subject, we recommend reading the complete work by Edward Bach. You can find it here: amzn.to/2BCdcUw

There are situations in which staying in the past has an important pathological value, it is essential to understand when a situation is mild and when instead it is necessary to rely on expert doctors.

As always, as with all flowers, flower therapy is suitable for everyone, it does not interfere with any pharmacological treatment.

Ever and never it replaces the advice and prescriptions of your doctor.


Bach Flower Heather - For exhibitionists


Bach Chicory flower
NARCISISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER (DSM IV, axis II)
"The essential feature of Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a pervasive picture of grandeur, a need for admiration and a lack of empathy (..) Their self-esteem is almost invariably very fragile. They may worry about how well they are doing and how favorably they are being judged. from others (..) They can constantly seek compliments often with great charm. A sense of entitlement is evident in the expectations of these individuals, of special treatment (..) They expect to be satisfied and when this does not happen they are bewildered and furious (. .) This sense of entitlement coupled with a lack of sensitivity to the wishes and needs of others can result in conscious or involuntary exploitation of others (..) They expect to be given whatever they want, or feel they need (.) ..) these individuals can expect great dedication from others, and can abuse it without regard for the consequences and about their lives ... Individuals with Narcissistic Personality Disorder generally lack empathy, and have difficulty recognizing the desires, subjective experiences and feelings of others ... These individuals are often envious of others, or believe that others are envious of them (i ..) The vulnerability of self-esteem makes the individual with Narcissistic Personality Disorder very sensitive to hurt due to criticism or frustration "

Bach Clematis flower
SCHIZOID PERSONALITY DISORDER (DSM IV, TI axis)
"The essential characteristics of Schizoid Personality Disorder are a pervasive modality of detachment from social relationships and a narrow range of experiences and emotional expressions in interpersonal contexts (..) Individuals with Schizoid Personality Disorder seem not to desire intimacy, they appear indifferent to opportunities to establish close relationships, and do not seem to derive much satisfaction from being part of a family or other social group (..) They prefer to spend time alone rather than being with other people (..) They may have little interest having sexual experiences with another person (.) and enjoying little or no activity (..)
These individuals have no close friends or confidants, except sometimes a first degree relative. (.) Individuals with Schizoid Personality Disorder often seem indifferent to the approval or criticism of others, and do not seem to be concerned about what others may think. of them (..) often do not respond appropriately to social behaviors so that they seem socially inept or superficial or absorbed by themselves (..) they claim to rarely feel strong emotions such as anger and joy. Often they show a restricted affectivity and appear cold and detached (..) Their lives sometimes seem directionless, and they can seem "estranged" from their goals. Such individuals often react passively to adverse circumstances, and have difficulty responding appropriately to important life events. "


Bach flower crab apple
OBSESSIVE-COMPULSIVE PERSONALITY DISORDER (DSM IV, axis II)
"The essential characteristics of Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder are concern for order, perfectionism and mental and interpersonal control, at the expense of flexibility, openness and efficiency (..) Individuals with Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder seek to maintain a feeling of control through painstaking attention to rules, trivial details, procedures, lists, schedules, or form, to the point where the purpose of the activity is lost (..) They are overly accurate (. ) paying extraordinary attention to detail, and repeatedly checking for any errors (..) They can commit so much to every detail of an absolutely perfect project that the project is never completed (..) There can be a great deal of concentration on the work domestic (eg, repeated excessive cleaning, so much so that "you can eat on the floor") "

Bach flower Elm-Hornbeam
THE "REACTIVE" TYPES
In the reactive typologies, those remedies that act on moods appear: linked, in a very evident way, to external situations, these moods constitute: therefore, a response of the organism, its adaptation reaction that takes the form of an imbalance psychophysical. These adaptive reactions appear to be the sum result of a constitutional component, linked to innate characteristics, and of actuality, that is, connected to the contingent situation. The latter component may be of a traumatic or stressful nature, due to the fact that the individual is experiencing a particularly difficult moment, which affects a specific sector of his life. The "diathesis-stress" paradigm, to which more and more reference is made today in the psychological clinic appears, in reality, the perspective from which to observe the problems examined here and associated with the other flower remedies, but in this reactive typology I laughed more evidently. influence of the environmental variable, traumatic or linked to stress, compared to the innate or constitutional one. In other words, the role of external situations is highlighted rather than the characteristics of the subject, even if the latter will still determine the type of reaction.

Bach Gentian flower
OBSESSIVE-COMPULSIVE TYPE
This typology appears to be characterized by character traits such as a sense of duty, hyperactivity, self-imposition of heavy professional responsibilities, difficulty in allowing oneself periods of necessary as well as deserved rest, both on the occasion of holidays and holidays. The individual can thus very easily find himself confronted with his own limits, suffering the impression of not being able to bear his innumerable responsibilities anymore. This condition can be easily reached also in consideration of the fact that obsessive-compulsive traits lead to a split between mind and body, so that the subject is not sensitive enough to the signals coming from his organism, when it tries to communicate the need for take a breather and indulge in a period of relaxation. Thus comes the crisis, to remind our hero of his belonging to the ranks of humans, a crisis that usually comes from the front in which he is most feverishly engaged: the professional one. Being extremely attached to the idea of ​​being able to control everything, including his resources, he will experience the feeling of not being able to complete all the tasks with a sense of profound drama. But this eventuality appears to be healthy and necessary, as well as for his weakened organism also for the psychic equilibrium itself, as he must realize the limits of his human nature. This crisis will easily be accompanied by a sense of depression, when the inflexible super-ego punishes him by making him feel guilty, these feelings will highlight the internal conflict with which he must confront and which he must finally recompose.

Given the over-investment of the intellectual activity that the obsessive-compulsive typically carries out, as a defense against emotional and sentimental involvement, the fatigue he may suffer from will start from this mental level, even if it will be easily generalized to the whole. organism because of the inflexible sense of duty that prevents oneself from allowing oneself the "rest of the just". Given also the inclination to lead a lifestyle within rigidly predetermined tracks, this fatigue may be due, at times, to the weight of an inexorable routine, to the total lack of novelty, surprises and new stimuli. that on the other hand this subject abhors, as the unexpected threatens to make him lose the control that he absolutely must maintain over people and situations, as a guarantee of his inner stability.

Bach flower Gorse
MAJOR DEPRESSIVE DISORDER (DSM IV, axis I)
"The essential characteristic of a Major Depressive Disorder is a clinical course characterized by one or more Major Depressive Episodes (.) The essential characteristic of a Major Depressive Episode is a period C.) during which there is depression of mood or loss of interest or pleasure in almost any activity (..) In some individuals who complain of feeling "dull", of having no feelings, or of feeling anxious, the presence of the depressed mood can be inferred from the mimicry, and from the behavior . Some individuals emphasize somatic complaints (eg, aches and pains) rather than reporting feelings of sadness. Many individuals report or demonstrate increased irritability (..)
Irritable rather than sad or depressed mood may occur in children and adolescents. (.) In some individuals, previous levels of interest or sexual desire are significantly reduced. Appetite is usually reduced, and many individuals feel they must force themselves to eat. Others (..) may have an increased appetite (..) Insomnia is the sleep disorder most commonly associated with the Major Depressive Episode (.) Less frequently individuals have excess sleep (..) Psychomotor alterations they include agitation (..) or slowing down (..) Reduced energy, asthenia, fatigue are common (..) The subject may report continuous tiredness in the absence of physical activity. Even the smallest tasks seem to require considerable effort (..) Many individuals report impaired ability to think, concentrate or make decisions (..) They may appear easily distracted or complain of memory disorders (..)
In older adults with a Major Depressive Episode, memory disturbances may be the main complaint, and may be misinterpreted as signs of initial dementia (...) Depression can be largely experienced in somatic terms, rather than sadness and guilt. . The depressive experience can be expressed as a problem of "nerves" or headache (in Latin or Mediterranean cultures), of weakness, fatigue or "imbalance" (in Chinese and Asian cultures), problems of "heart" (in Middle Eastern cultures ), you hate "broken heart" (among the Hopi). These manifestations combine features of Depressive, Anxiety and Somatoform Disorders "


Bach flower Heather
DISTURBANCE OF PERSONALITY (DSM IV, axis II)
"The essential characteristics of Histrionic Personality Disorder are pervaded and excessive emotionality and attention-seeking behavior (..) Individuals with Histrionic Personality Disorder feel uncomfortable or unappreciated when they are not the center of attention. Often bright and dramatic, they tend to attract attention, and can initially fascinate new acquaintances by their enthusiasm, apparent openness or seductiveness (..) They will take on the role of "party star" (.) If they are not in the center of attention they can enact something dramatic (e.g., make up stories, create a scene) to draw attention to them (.) Emotional expression can be superficial and rapidly changing 6 ..) These individuals have an impressionistic and devoid of detail speech (.)
Individuals with this disorder are characterized by self-dramatization, theatricality and exaggerated expression of emotions (..) Individuals with Histrionic Personality Disorder have a high degree of suggestibility (..) Their opinions and feelings are easily influenced by others and by momentary enthusiasm. They can be overconfident, especially towards figures with strong authority, to whom they attribute the magical resolution of their problems. Individuals with this disorder often consider relationships to be more intimate than they actually are, describing almost every acquaintance as "my dear, dear friend" (.) Are common romantic flights into fantasy (..)
They may try to control their partner through emotional manipulation or seductiveness on the one hand, while manifesting marked dependence on the other (..) They become depressed and upset when they are not the center of attention. They may crave novelty, stimulation and excitement, and tend to get bored of the usual routine. These individuals are often intolerant or frustrated with situations involving postponed gratification, and their actions are often aimed at immediate satisfaction.


Heather

… It's for people whose interest is obsessively turned to themselves, but who don't like being alone.

The dr. Bach le definisce gli “attaccabottoni”, perché farebbero di tutto pur di avere sempre qualcuno con sé per parlare senza sosta e nei minimi particolari dei propri problemi e delle proprie malattie, grandi e piccole, fino a che gli altri si stancano e cominciano volutamente ad evitarle.

Pertanto la solitudine, che è la più grande paura delle persone di tipo Heather, è il risultato proprio del loro comportamento.

Il rimedio Heather aiuta questo tipo di persone a confrontare i propri problemi con quelli degli altri.

Avendo esse stesse sperimentato il bisogno di parlare, potranno così diventare, a loro volta, degli ottimi ascoltatori e un solido sostegno per gli altri, con il risultato di essere molto ricercate per la loro capacità di comprensione anziché evitate per il loro egocentrismo.

La descrizione del dottor Bach

Quelli che sono sempre alla ricerca della compagnia di chiunque possa mostrarsi disponibile, trovando necessario discutere i propri affari con altri, non importa di chi si tratti. Sono molto infelici se debbono star soli per qualche tempo, breve o lungo che sia.

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